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how to get started in swinging...
To start swinging it is probably best to get involved as a couple. Couples need not be married although it is recommended that they have a little history together and are familiar with each others emotional needs. They should also be comfortable enough to approach others as a “couple”. The general rule when swinging is that swinging works best when the couples view on swinging is an enhancement to their existing marriage/relationship rather than a quick way to get your leg over with a different partner because you’re bored of your current one. Good communication is critical when swinging as a couple. There are several different forms that swinging may take and whichever one you choose is fine as long you and your partner are clear about what is happening / going to happen. Sex has the potential to be very emotionally charged and the pleasures found in swinging can only really be reached when both partners are sensitive to each others needs. They must at least sometimes put their partners feelings first. It is important to know what you’re getting into. It may get too much for you and your partner. If you’re not comfortable with the situation there will always be another personal ad or another party for you to attend - you don’t want your other half getting too deep into it if you’re not ready / willing to proceed. It is very important to bare in mind that swinging for the foremost is a general social activity – all it is, is a social gathering, not really any different from any other – except much more sex! There are several different types of swinging which you may come across within a swinging community. Some people may prefer not to be around when their partner is having sex with another swinger. This is referred to as closed swinging. The other type is known as open swinging in which your partner watches and participates if needed. There is another type, soft swinging which is when you trade partners just for the purpose of heavy petting i.e. kissing etc and then switch back to your own partner for the actual act of sex. It is important you and your partner know exactly what type of swinging is going to be happening and whether you’re comfortable with how far is can go. It can get very embarrassing if you’ve misunderstood the situation or signs, not to mention is could be damaging to your relationship. Some couples in swinging have special codes to let their partner or other couples know what they want to do or how far they’ll go. Examples might be discreet phrases or gestures to signal if you’re attracted to the person or not. This is handy when you and your partner is out with another couple and you wish to let each other know you’d like to swing. You can then let the other couple know. It is not completely necessary to actually have sex with other people to have a great time when swinging. There are many off premises events held which enables you to flirt or be flirted with in a non threatening way to your relationship. Give it a try! |
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